The terms BDSM and kink often conjure images of latex-clad dominatrixes, whips, chains, ballgags, and blindfolds, but there is much more to it than that. Though my time in the scene have taught me things like how to swing the flogger with a certain degree of finesse, the most important skills I have picked up are far softer and have nothing to do with technique and appearances.
By Ena Dahl 8 min read