A standing position can bring variety and spontaneity. Especially for the latter, standing variations are great to enjoy sex outside the bed, at any time, in any place (as long as you and your partner(s) are not in sight of anybody who does not wish to be involved). With or without penetration, standing sex is suitable for all genders and orientations.
General Tips
Some variations require a little more flexibility and strength than others. Sex should not feel uncomfortable nor painful (beyond the pleasure point). To avoid this, you can:
- Take breaks
- Change any position that is comfortable or does not feel good
- Use lube for easier penetration
- Use walls, chairs, cushions, etc. for support and more stability
Not everyone involved necessarily has to stand on both feet in a standing position. Also, penetration (if desired) can be done with strap-ons, toys, hands or the penis. Here we list the most common forms of standing sex positions:
Standing Doggy or Standing Spooning
This position is a variation of the doggy style. Instead of being on hands and knees, the recipient takes a standing position while the other penetrates them from behind. The recipient may place their hands against a wall, the edge of a sofa or, if flexible enough, they may fold themselves and place their hands on the floor. This makes standing doggy versatile and a good introduction for beginners.
The Three Legged Doggy
Facing each other, the recipient hooks a leg around their partner. This facilitates access to their genitals while keeping both partners close. The recipient’s genitals may be stimulated or penetrated. For more support, you can place the leg that is held up on the edge of a table, backrest or similar.
The Butterfly
The Butterfly is penetration-focused – with a strap-on or penis, anal or vaginal. To achieve it, the recipient lies on their back on an elevated surface (edge of the bed, table,…), placing their legs on the shoulders of their partner who is standing up.
Upstanding Citizen
This position requires strength and balance. One person straddles their standing partner, wrapping their legs around their body. The one standing may support their partner, holding them around the waist or by the bottom. While it works well with penetration, it can also be done without: in that case the standing partner can reach one hand for their lover’s genitals or anus for some external stimulation.
Oral
Oral sex can also be done while standing. In this case, only the person who is being orally satisfied has to stand, while the other person kneels or squats in front of them.
