Caress your body gently, use lube (the more, the better!), and, once you are inside yourself and find your G-spot, caress it like you’re literally telling it to come to you, open up to you gently. Remember that it’s not about quickly pushing your fingers inside, so even when you feel aroused enough to pick up the pace, try not to lose control over the “come to me” movement. Don’t rub it, but let your fingers stroke that juicy blueberry with mild curiosity and care. You can also try thudding, that is, repetitively pressing the G-spot to build intense tension. I personally am crazy about thudding myself, and I love doing it to a partner or when a partner does it to me. In any case, you are the only one who can know what works better for you. These are just tips, not rules; what makes the fun is active listening to your body and figuring out what you need to do in the moment. If you feel too much in your head, slow down, take a breath, and start again if you like.
The above applies when playing with other people, too. When asking my followers to share with me their squirting experiences, I got a DM from L., who told me how exciting it was for him and his partners to explore different moves and moods together that would make them relax, feel confident and safe enough to open themselves up for squirting. Like L., R., also a male, told me how exciting it is to see the look of surprise on their partners’ faces when they unexpectedly squirted for the first time in front of them.
I loved seeing how everybody’s experiences with squirting are so different. Y., a female, shared that the first time she squirted, it was masturbating, and she thought she pissed the bed. On the other hand, R. told me about that time when she was having sex with a guy with such a giant penis that she thought the hot liquid squirting out was her cervix bleeding! C. told me the story of when she was having standing-up sex and, after she squirted, she slipped on her own squirt (I honestly laughed a lot when reading that, but yeah, if you’re taking my advice to stimulate your G-spot while standing up, please make sure not to hurt yourself!).
Then there’s L., whose first time squirting was when he was fingered on a staircase and squirted so much it ran down the stairs like a waterfall (epic!). L. also shared with me how T (testosterone hormone therapy) changed how he squirts. Before transitioning, he would only squirt from fingering or fisting penetration, while now, he says, it can happen from pretty much any kind of stimulation, although it’s now rarer and less abundant than in the past. Hormone therapy can change one’s ability to squirt more or less drastically. For example, one of L.’s friends had never squirted before transitioning but started doing it after a few years on T.
Whether you have a vulva, a penis, or anything in between and beyond, whether you find squirting so exciting to become addicted to it or you’re just bored at it, whether you like doing it solo or with one or more partners… What I find beautiful about all of this is that just as much as anything else related to human sexuality, our sexual experiences can tell so much about how diverse we are as humanity and unique as individuals. So go ahead and explore yourself if you feel like it, enjoy the wave your way without any judgment, know yourself a little bit more, and invite others to do that with you under your direction if you like.
