The Stereotypes Around Deepthroating
Deepthroating, or the advanced technique where you put a whole penis into your mouth until its very end, is all over the internet.
Yet, mainstream porn – not ethical porn – has made it uncomfortable for most people to even think about it. We see videos where (mainly) women are choking, suffering, their makeup is destroyed, and they look like sad raccoons. After encountering such content, it’s hard to imagine that deepthroating can be a highly pleasurable and fun experience for both parties involved.
But when we step aside from the mainstream heterosexual male gaze, we can find magic. A place where not the show and the visual performance, but the sensations and the mutual pleasure is what matters.
The Process Debunked
Whether it’s your first deepthroat or you’re already more experienced, certain steps are worth remembering.
- Use Lubrication. Either by using lubrication or applying your natural lube (your saliva), make sure that there’s no friction and the act is slippery enough. This will avoid feeling pain for both of you.
- Start as a regular blowjob. Get comfortable, put them into your mouth, and indulge in the process. You’re here to have fun.
- Go deeper. After a few minutes, if you already feel comfortable with them inside your mouth, your throat muscles are relaxed, and the position feels good to both of you, you can start going deeper. Rely on a back and forth motion to take the penis deeper and deeper. Keep in mind you can always back off if you’re feeling uncomfortable.
- Breathe through your nose. To make the process pleasurable for you, gently breathe in and out through your nose. Forget about your mouth; that’s already filled.
- Find a rhythm. After getting used to the depth, find a convenient motion to move back and forth. You don’t have to do it fast; slow movements can be just as pleasurable as going hard-core.
- Take breaks. The moment you feel overwhelmed with the situation, come up for air and take a rest. You can continue with your hands while your throat is recovering.
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After the step-by-step how-to approach, let’s take a look at some additional tips to enhance the experience.
- Pay attention to their body language. Are they moaning? Slightly moving? Or did they enter the dead-fish syndrome? Pay attention to which movements feel good to your partner. We're all unique.
- Look into the eyes. If you ask me, there's nothing sexier than looking into the other's eyes while our mouths are filled with their penises. It enables an incredibly high level of intimacy.
- Use your hands. Who said deepthroating must only be about your throat? If you get tired, use your hands and continue the fun.
- Pleasure the head and the balls. To enable even more pleasure, don't forget about the head of the penis -that's the most sensitive part of it. You can also touch and massage the balls. Take in mind, though, individual preferences might be different. Some love the stimulation of the balls and the head of the penis, while others not that much. If in doubt, ask.
- A position for exploring more. If you need more variety than the traditional blowjob position, this one is for you. Lie on your back and let your head hang slightly off the edge of the bed. Tell your partner to stand up and put their penis into your mouth in this position. Let them control the blowjob.
Go Down For Pleasure
While tips and techniques are great for learning, solely implementing them isn’t enough. Trust your instincts and let the experience take over your being. Give yourself fully to your partner and forget about what sexuality should look like. Enter positions you’ve never seen before but intuitively feel right. There’s not a single “normal” way to sexuality, but a wide range of. It’s about discovering your own feelings and desires in a safe environment.
Go down on them for pleasure, not because you saw it on the internet.
How To Deepthroat Safely
Safety is an aspect you should always keep in mind when it comes to deepthroating.
Some signals show you’re pushing too hard. You might feel like you’re choking, your throat might feel raw, and you might unintentionally gag or even vomit. When these happen or are about to happen, slow down, or stop entirely.
Deepthroating isn’t the practice with which you should start your first blow job. It also requires time and practice to master it.
Don’t push yourself too hard; your safety is the most important aspect, after all.
Ease Your Anxiety
If you’re a deepthroating beginner, you might have a few anxious thoughts in your mind. Don’t worry. All of them can be easily solved.
You might be worried about gagging. If that’s the case, prepare. Figure out with your fingers how far you can go before trying it out in a sexual context. Get used to the feeling, and go a bit deeper, step by step.
What if I vomit? Valid question, and indeed, many people worry about it. To avoid it, don’t push your limits too far. If it happens, that’s also not the end of the world. You can sort it out with a quick shower.
You might be worried about the duration of the blowjob. If you get tired, you always have the right to stop. It’s okay to stop even after just 5 minutes.
Casual Sex Should Always Mean Protected Sex - Even For Blowjobs
Giving oral pleasure during hookups is tempting. But when it comes to safety, people with penises usually aren’t that happy about using a condom during a blowjob.
Yet, unprotected oral sex can easily cause gonorrhea, genital herpes, and syphilis infections.
Fortunately, infections such as chlamydia, human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), hepatitis A, B, and C, genital warts, typically caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), and pubic lice occur less frequently, but chances are still there.
You can definitely get STDs from blowjobs. So before you engage in a casual blowjob, be sure your partner is healthy or use protection.
Your health is more important than their pleasure.
Climax
To have the best deepthroating experiences, you should first prepare for the action by reading about guides and techniques. Second, enjoy the process and immerse yourself in the experience of giving oral pleasure. Last, pay attention to your own needs as well:
- Slow down when you need to.
- Take a rest if you feel like that.
- Use protection during casual deepthroating.
Your partner also wants your pleasure.
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