The Stereotypes Around Deepthroating
Deepthroating, an advanced technique where you take an entire whole penis into your mouth, is all over the internet.Yet, mainstream porn —not ethical porn— has made it uncomfortable for most people to even consider. In these videos, women (mainly) are shown choking, with their makeup destroyed, suffering and looking like sad raccoons. After encountering such content, it’s hard to imagine that deepthroating can be a highly pleasurable and fun experience for both parties involved.But when we step aside from the mainstream heterosexual male gaze, we can find magic—a place where the focus is not on the show or the visual performance but on the sensations and the mutual pleasure that truly matter.
The Process Debunked
Whether it’s your first deepthroat or you’re already more experienced, certain steps are worth remembering.
- Use Lubrication: Whether employing a lubricant or relying on your natural lube (saliva), ensure there’s no friction, creating a slippery experience to avoid discomfort for both parties.
- Start as a Regular Blowjob: Get comfortable, take them into your mouth, and indulge in the process. You’re here to have fun.
- Go Deeper: After a few minutes, if you already feel comfortable with them inside your mouth, your throat muscles are relaxed, and the position feels good to both of you, you can start going deeper. Rely on a back-and-forth motion to take the penis deeper and deeper. Keep in mind you can always back off if you’re feeling uncomfortable. After a few minutes, if you feel at ease, your throat muscles are relaxed, and the position works for both, you can gradually go deeper. Rely on a back-and-forth motion to take the penis deeper and deeper. Keep in mind you can always back off if you’re feeling uncomfortable.
- Breathe Through Your Nose: For the sake of your pleasure, gently breathe in and out through your nose. Forget about your mouth; that’s already occupied.
- Find a Rhythm: Once you’re used to the depth, find a convenient motion to move back and forth, whether slow or fast; slow movements can be just as pleasurable as going hard-core.
- Take Breaks: The moment you feel overwhelmed with the situation, come up for air and take a break. You can continue with your hands while you let your throat recover.
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After the step-by-step how-to approach, let’s take a look at some additional tips to enhance the experience.
- Pay Attention to Body Language: Are they moaning? Slightly moving? Or did they enter the dead-fish syndrome? Pay attention to which movements feel good to your partner. We're all unique.
- Look into the Eyes: If you ask me, there's nothing sexier than looking into the other's eyes while our mouths are filled with their penises. It creates an incredibly high level of intimacy.
- Use Your Hands: Who said deepthroating is only about your throat? If you get tired, use your hands and continue the fun.
- Pleasure the Head and the Halls: For added pleasure, don't forget about the penis head—the most sensitive part. You can also touch and massage the balls. Keep in mind, though, that individual preferences vary. Some love this stimulation, while others won’t. When in doubt, ask.
- Explore a Different Position: If you crave more variety than the traditional blowjob position, this one is for you. Lie on your back and let your head hang slightly off the edge of the bed. Tell your partner to stand up and put their penis into your mouth in this position, letting them control the blowjob.
Go Down For Pleasure
While tips and techniques are great for learning, solely implementing them isn’t enough. Trust your instincts and let the experience engulf you. Surrender yourself to your partner and forget about what sexuality “should” look like. Enter positions you’ve never seen before but intuitively feel right. There’s not a singular “normal” approach. It’s about discovering your feelings and desires in a safe environment.
Go down on them for pleasure, not simply because you saw it on the internet.
How To Deepthroat Safely
Safety is something to always keep in mind while deepthroating.
Some signals will show you might be pushing too hard. You might feel like you’re choking, experience throat rawness, and unintentionally gag or even vomit. If any of these signals happen or are about to happen, you’ve got to slow down or stop altogether.
Deepthroating isn’t a necessary technique for your first blowjob. It requires time and practice to master.
Don’t push yourself too hard. After all, your safety is the most important aspect.
Ease Your Anxiety
If you’re a beginner at deepthroating, you might have a few anxious thoughts. Don’t worry. All of them can be easily solved.Concerned about gagging? Prepare by using your fingers to gauge how far you can go before attempting it in a sexual context. Get used to the feeling, and go a bit deeper, step by step.What if I vomit? Valid question. Many people worry about it. To avoid this, don’t push your limits too far. And if it happens, it’s not the end of the world—you can sort it out with a quick shower.Worried about the duration? Remember, if you get tired, you have every right to stop. It’s okay to stop even after just 5 minutes.
- Concerned about gagging? Prepare by using your fingers to gauge how far you can go before attempting it in a sexual context. Get used to the feeling, and go a bit deeper, step by step.
- What if I vomit? Valid question. Many people worry about it. To avoid this, don’t push your limits too far. And if it happens, it’s not the end of the world—you can sort it out with a quick shower.
- Worried about the duration? Remember, if you get tired, you have every right to stop. It’s okay to stop even after just 5 minutes.
Casual Sex Means Protected Sex—Even For Blowjobs
Giving oral pleasure during hookups is tempting. But when it comes to safety, people with penises usually aren’t that happy about using a condom during a blowjob.Yet, unprotected oral sex poses risks, easily leading to gonorrhoea, genital herpes and syphilis infections.Fortunately, infections such as chlamydia; human immunodeficiency virus (HIV); hepatitis A, B and C; genital warts caused by human papillomavirus (HPV) and pubic lice occur less frequently, but the possibility remains.Getting STDs from blowjobs is a real concern. So before you engage in a casual blowjob, be sure your partner is healthy or use protection. Your health is more important than their pleasure!
Climax
To have the best deepthroating experiences, preparation is key! Start by reading about guides and techniques. Then, immerse yourself in the process of giving oral pleasure. Finally, pay attention to your own needs:
- Pace Yourself: Slow down when necessary.
- Take Breaks: When you feel the need, take a rest.
- Prioritize Safety: Use protection during casual deepthroating.
- Prioritize Your Pleasure: Your partner also wants your pleasure.
If you’re feeling inspired, take a look at our oral category, and enjoy some solo pleasure.
