A Handjob Guide

Wanna know how to make handjobs fun for everyone involved? Find out how!

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Disclaimer: The article assumes that you are giving a handjob to a person with a penis.

When it comes to handjobs, there’s more to it than the typical up-down motion (although that can be fun). Pleasing a person with your hands can be an erotic art form, and in this guide, we’ll provide techniques, tips and tricks to make handjobs enjoyable for both the giver and the receiver.

Communicate Your Pleasure

Whether you’re connecting with someone new or have a long-established relationship, communicating before engaging in sexual activity establishes a foundation of trust for shared pleasure. Every penis is different and every person has different preferences—what tickles, what feels good, what overwhelms. You can ask about these preferences or explore them organically. It’s important to not get too technical; a handjob should be fun for you and the person receiving it.

Add a Dash of Oil

Even if a hand alone already gets the job done, there are a few props you can use. Lubricants such as lube, oil, Vaseline or even saliva can introduce new sensations and reduce friction. Jojoba oil and apricot kernel oil are not only good for a different tactile experience but also care for the skin. Wellness much?

Consider the Setting

As for the setting, reclining on a bed can be nice. Placing a pillow beneath the lower back elevates the pelvis, allowing the receiver to relax and making the penis more accessible to the giver. But a handjob can also be fun while sitting on a chair or standing. For added excitement, consider blindfolding the receiver, tying their hands, or using a cock ring. None of this is a must; try your hand at it!

Morphology: Cut vs. Uncut

“Cut” and “uncut” are casual terms we use to indicate whether a person is circumcised (“cut”) or uncircumcised (“uncut”). There are many reasons—religious, cultural and medical—why a person may no longer have a foreskin. The cliché is that a circumcised penis is less sensitive, but that isn’t always the case. That said, it is often the case that people who are circumcised prefer to masturbate with aids or with saliva because that helps to create the right friction. While individual sensitivity varies, understanding the receiver’s anatomy allows for a more personal and pleasurable experience.

Get a Grip (Literally)

It’s often helpful to see someone with a penis masturbating. We all know our own bodies best and being shown how someone pleasures themselves provides insight into the technique, rhythm and grips that make them feel good. However, this doesn’t mean you’re simply imitating their actions. The thrill of being touched by another person lies in the anticipation of the unknown. As a basic posture, consider grasping the penis with your entire hand and gently exploring. The receiver’s reactions can convey valuable information. You can also inquire directly, “Should I grip more firmly? less firmly?” The coordinated movement of the thumb and index finger controls the grip towards the glans. You can adjust the pressure and experiment, particularly on the glans, the most sensitive part of the penis. But pressure and friction on the shaft of the penis can also bring pleasure, especially if you want to vary the stimulation.

Another gripping technique involves placing your thumb along the shaft of the penis, reaching the tip of the glans. From this position, you can use friction or you can massage the glans with your thumb. Saliva, oil or another lubricant can aid in creating the right friction. Alternatively, it’s also possible to use so-called “pre-cum” as a natural lubricant. (You can also satisfy a person with your feet instead of your hands, but footjobs are a separate topic).

Rhythm Matters

With handjobs, rhythm plays a crucial role. Primarily, a handjob involves massaging and rubbing the shaft and tip of the penis with your hand. Explore different rhythms and find the right one by collaborating with the receiver and varying from there. Establishing a rhythm and then introducing variations—by transitioning from fast to slow or from firmer to gentler—can be pleasurable. Don’t get lost in the technique, and always stay attuned to the receiver. Their physical reactions provide immediate cues that can guide you. If you emphasize massage over friction, it introduces a blend of grip and rhythm. How firmly do you massage? How does the friction work? It can be comfortable to hold the penis shaft in one hand and have the other hand massage the tip of the penis with the palm. Allow space for experimentation—there is no right or wrong, a handjob is a dynamic process.

Come On: The Grand Finale

An orgasm isn’t the only goal of a handjob, and there are many ways to play with climaxing. If you sense or learn that the orgasm is getting closer, you can pause to prolong the experience. During the pause, gentle stroking or massaging can add to the pleasure. If you want to go deep, you might try a technique known as “edging”, whereby the orgasm is intentionally delayed again and again. Another enjoyable technique involves masturbating with one hand and using the other hand to cup the testicles and gently pull them away from the body. Releasing the testicles when the receiver reaches climax can enhance the intensity of the orgasm.

Concluding Thoughts

Handjobs may sound trivial at first, but we hope we’ve shown you the artistry involved in this intimate act. The tips we’ve shared are merely inspiration; find out for yourself with the person receiving what you both enjoy. As the giver of a handjob, deriving pleasure from observing the immediate impact on another person’s body can be immensely gratifying. A penis becomes a landscape that we explore with all the sensitivity of our hands. There is no singular technique or perfect handjob. As always in sex, it all comes down to communication and tact.

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