Love is a wonderful thing, but especially on Valentine’s Day, we must not forget that there are people who (want to) live in the absence of love.
It’s no secret that Valentine’s Day, which is always on February 14, is a capitalist-driven construct and comes with a lot of social norms. It’s mostly about romance, cheesy gifts and expressions of love like something out of a Hollywood flick. And who benefits from it all in the end? Of course, the big corporations and the people who have managed to find one or more partners.
But there are also the singles, the people who consciously decide against love or a classic partnership, or those who would like a relationship but have not yet found the right person. However, instead of selecting them and excluding them from the privilege of romantic love, here are some ideas on how to make Valentine’s Day beautiful all by yourself or even together with friends.
Valentines Dinner for (insert number here) ?
Is there that one restaurant you haven’t managed to go to yet or that has been recommended to you so many times? Valentine’s Day is a great occasion to try it out, isn’t it? Dinner alone can heighten your senses in a whole different way. Take your time to taste the food without distractions, listen to the buzz of voices, music and your surroundings come to life, or pick up a book to read while you wait.
Don’t feel like going out to eat alone? Then grab your favorite people and take yourselves out together.
Valentines Day - Spa day
Deep relaxation can’t be found anywhere better than in a thermal spa, hammam or spa. For those of you who like to show skin, this might be just the thing for a dose of self-care. The evening offers, especially in the still quite cold days, a certain coziness to switch off from everyday stress and do something good for your own body and soul. In addition, a day at the spa brings great pleasure, when you can try different saunas, steam baths, relaxation rooms or massages. Alternatively, if you want it to be more intimate, you can soak in a warm bathtub at home and pimp it with a bath salt or oil. A few candles, room scent or relaxing music can additionally create a spa vibe.
Valentine's Day equals sex day?
Let’s face it. Valentine’s Day is sometimes about sex. So why not make Valentine’s Day a sex day? Instead of giving in to the urge to consume, you could take the opportunity to be more aware of your own body. And what better way to do that than to give yourself the gift of an orgasm? It could be just the time to immerse yourself in the world of another person’s Valentine’s Day fantasy or, to boost your own body image and self-confidence, try taking part in a striptease workshop.
Loving yourself is an important part of having a healthy and fulfilling sex life, as well as your own self-esteem. It’s obvious that love should not only be celebrated on Valentine’s Day, but can actually be given with small gestures on the other 364 days of the year, in friendships, partnerships or families. But if the corniest day of the year is already celebrated with a loud bang, then dare and empower yourself to use it differently.