Go Down On Me
Tell Me What You Need
Blow jobs can be beautiful and pleasurable for the giver! That is, of course, if you genuinely find joy in providing your partner with oral pleasure; appreciate exploring their body, penis and balls; and if you communicate openly about both your desires and boundaries. It’s important to recognise that every penis is unique and that each person has distinct preferences. Even though one might enjoy the feeling of a partner’s mouth wrapped around their dick, everyone has different preferences.
Before we get started, let’s address a fundamental question: What do you need from your sexual partner to pleasure them orally? It’s perfectly reasonable to express your needs, whether it involves a preparatory shower or reciprocal pleasure.
Sex Me Slow
Picture this scenario: You and your (sexual) partner have just freshened up in the shower, and you’re in the mood to go down on them. You can start by taking some coconut oil and massaging your partner’s body, kissing their chest, ears and neck and then slowly working your way down to the penis. [Note: Cooking oils such as coconut oil work well as massage oil and lubricant, benefiting the body inside and out.] [Note 2: Make sure you only use latex-free condoms with oil, because oil can lead to tears in latex condoms.]
Allow yourselves the luxury of time to savour each moment. The build-up to the blowjob itself can be very exciting, so feel free to tease a little. Give yourself time to explore your partner’s body, and most importantly, enjoy yourself. How softly can you kiss? How provocatively can you bite? Does your partner like to be delicately caressed or scratched? Is it some combination of everything? Feel free to ask your partner how they want to be touched and what they enjoy. Some may find it challenging to articulate their sexual preferences, so if verbal expression is challenging, consider experimenting together to discover what brings pleasure to your shared playground.
I Love Dick
When your mouth wants to kiss your partner’s penis, keep taking your time. Slowly devour it. Delve into various sensations by licking from the shaft to the tip or by delicately holding, stroking or gently pulling the balls. As you wrap your mouth around the top part of the penis and begin sucking, let your hands massage their thighs.
You can use your tongue and your boobs (if you have a pair) to play or massage the perineum and the anus. Incorporating your hands during a blowjob adds an extra layer of pleasure—whether massaging the penis simultaneously or continuing to stroke and caress other areas of the body.
These are just a few things one can do and there are a thousand more. Remember, everyone is different. It isn’t your responsibility to give a great blow job straight away. Find out what your sexual partner likes and don’t be afraid to explore!
5 Rules for a Perfect Blow Job
- Discover what you want and need
- Communicate your needs and boundaries
- Ask your sexual partner what they like
- Take it slow and explore together
- Enjoy yourself
If You Feel Like This Has Not Been Practical Enough:
- Keep your lips soft for a sensual touch
- Unless explicitly requested, avoid using your teeth.
- Don't shy away from producing saliva; a wetter experience often enhances pleasure.
