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The Perfect Blow Job

The Art of giving blow jobs remains a mystery, because there are a lot of questions around that topic no one dares to ask. Will he only enjoy my blow job if I master deep throat? Does he want me to do something with his balls? Are there any special moves I don’t know about? What if I have to gag?

What a girl wants

In this article I would like to offer you a few simple tools to empower you to give the blow jobs YOU want to give. And he will like them, don’t worry. First of all and most importantly: Ask yourself whether you want to pleasure your (or a) man orally. Because (I shouldn’t have to say this) you don’t have to give blow jobs, if you don’t want to. Don’t give a blow job, if you are doing it out of obligation. I personally do not want anyone to go down on me, if they don’t enjoy it and the same should apply the other way around.

What a girl needs

Blow jobs can be beautiful and pleasurable for women too, if you genuinely want to give him oral pleasure, if you are open to explore his body and genital area and talk to your sexual partner about it. Every penis (and every vulva) is unique and every person is different, so even though one might say, that men generally enjoy the feeling of a (wo)man’s mouth wrapped around their private parts, everyone has different preferences.

So, before we get started on the action, let’s talk about your needs: What do you need from your sexual partner in order to pleasure him orally? For example, him having a shower before you spend time with his cock is not too much to ask for, neither is you wanting to be pleasured an equal amount.

Sex me slow 

Let’s say he (or both of you) is fresh out of shower and you’re in the mood to give him a blow job. One way this could go is: you take some coconut oil – coconut oil (or any other natural oil you use for cooking) works very well as massage oil and lubricant, because it benefits the body inside and out – and start massaging his body, kissing his chest, ears, neck and then slowly working your way down to his penis. Give yourself and him time to enjoy every part of it. It can be quite exciting to build up to the blow job itself, so feel free to tease him a little and first and foremost enjoy yourself and give yourself time to explore his body. How softly can you kiss him, how provokingly bite, does he like to be delicately caressed or rather scratched? Is it a combination of it all? And feel free to ask him, how he wants to be touched and what he enjoys. 

For a lot of people, it is difficult to express what they like sexually, let alone know what they like, so if he can’t tell you, try different things and find out together. This is both your playground.

Loving Cock 

Once your mouth wants to kiss his cock, take your time again, slowly devour it. You can lick it from the shaft up to the tip, you can gently hold, stroke, or pull his balls, you can wrap your mouth around the top part of the penis and gently start sucking while your hands are massaging his thighs, you can use your tongue and boobs to play and you can always include your hands in your blow job, whether it is to massage his cock at the same time you’re sucking it, or whether it is to continue stroking and massaging parts of his body.

These are just a few things one can do and there are a thousand other things that can be done. Everyone is different, so it is not your responsibility to give a great blow job straight away. Find out what he likes and don’t be afraid to explore. 

5 rules to the perfect Blow Job: 

1. Find out what you want and need  

2. Communicate it 

3. Ask him about what he likes 

4. Take it slow and explore (together) 

5. Enjoy yourself 

If you feel like this hasn’t been practical enough: Make sure your lips are soft, because it feels better, don’t use your teeth unless he explicitly asks for it and don’t be afraid of producing too much saliva: As with the vagina, the blow job feels a lot better, when the penis is wet. 

And last but not least: The tip of the penis is a lot more sensitive than the rest, so you don’t need to be able to fit a whole penis in your mouth to be able to pleasure him. 

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