What concerns do I have? What are my wishes? Where are my limits? Where do I need a lot of attention and sensitivity? Trust and effective communication with the practitioner are crucial for a pleasurable, liberating, powerful and healing experience.
The massage session centres on the sensual, erotic and lustful awakening of the individual. The longing for touch is fundamental, and the highly sensitive nature of the skin makes it a focal point for sexual energy—the most potent force within us. Allowing space for this energy contributes significantly to overall well-being and psychological balance. Touch wonderfully regulates our nervous system by providing mental relaxation, easier access to our feelings and a deeper connection to the universe of our body.
Erotic bodywork encompasses various approaches, and the following three are the most common:
Erotic Massage
Tantra Massage
A Tantra massage focuses on prolonged arousal, deep relaxation and letting go. It stems from Tantra, a philosophical branch of Hinduism. The original concept positions orgasmic releasement as a loss of energy and posits that sexual excitement should be diffused throughout the body. Tantra identifies energy centres known as chakras, locating desire primarily in the lower chakras of the upper body. Through certain techniques, desire is redirected to higher energy centres, unlocking new sexual experiences such as full-body orgasms and expanded consciousness.
Engaging with our inherent erotic potential and allowing ourselves to surrender brings rewards. One should not only chase the orgasm mentally and physically. Arousal should be in flow and should include the heart. In Tantra massage, anything can happen, but nothing has to. Desire can flow as it flows. Both participants are undressed during the massage, enhancing the intensity of physical closeness. Two distinct approaches exist, both involving extensive genital touch.
In Sanskrit, “yoni” means “vulva” and “lingam” means penis. During Yoni and Lingam massages, the touches are slow, thoughtful and attentive. The aim is to release tension, activate certain energy points, and open new realms of pleasure.
Sexological Bodywork Session
A Sexological Bodywork session fosters transformation, healing and knowledge transfer. This form of therapy was developed in the 1980s by Joseph Kramer, an American sex educator and sex therapist. The session begins with a comprehensive conversation addressing various aspects of one’s sexuality and partnership, including challenges, desires, blockages and feelings. Somatic learning occurs during the body session, where a chosen developmental topic is integrated into tactile experiences. Ideally, learning takes place through the body. The concluding discussion consciously illuminates the experiences and insights gained. Various styles exist, with the Taoist Erotic Massage standing out as one of the most effective techniques in my opinion. The recipient is encouraged to actively participate through breath or movement, intensifying perception and dismantling bodily blockages. This approach enables individuals to enjoy their sexuality freely and naturally once again.
