“Anal sex” is one of the most common search terms on porn sites. Why are we so fascinated by this sex practice? One the one hand, this is due to the taboo nature the butt has acquired because of it being associated with feces, submission and power.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that everyone is keen to have anal intercourse. Whether or not you enjoy anal sex is a matter of personal taste and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Some of you may have an unpleasant memory of your first butt time. Often, things don’t go quite as smoothly as one would like, especially if some important things are ignored. With the help of these do’s and don’ts, anal sex can become an exciting and pleasurable experience:
Do: Trust & Relax
Anal sex should never take place if it’s because of the partner’s forceful or pushy request. Relaxation is the be-all and end-all here: anyone who feels pressured will also be tense in the anal area. This makes it difficult to be penetrated and can lead to severe pain – no thank you! Talk openly about your wishes and your insecurities beforehand. That just makes the whole thing more relaxed. The more trust and closeness there is, the easier it will be for people to let go and turn off their head. It is particularly recommended to explore the anal region and anus in advance, and to find out and feel what feels good and what does not.
Don't: be afraid of accidents
As a rule, it is enough to just clean the anus in the shower before doing anal sex. Feces are only found in the rectum before stool. So, if you don’t feel the need to go to the bathroom, then anal sex is hygienically safe. However, there’s always the possibility that an unpleasant smell or other surprises could arise. Don’t panic – just clean up and carry on or switch to something else, to another practice. Warning: intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections. So, do not imitate the interplay between vaginal and anal penetration which it often shown in popular home porn.
If you want to be on the safe side, you can prep by cleaning the intestines with the help of an anal shower. It’s a thin plastic tube than is inserted into a small pump ball.
- Fill the pump ball with body temperature water, and then carefully insert the tip into the anus with the help of some lubricant.
- Now, press the pump ball so that the water goes into the rectum. You can also use a conventional shower head, which you would point at your anus and thus introduce some water inside.
- Hold the water inside you for a moment. Then you must sit on the toilet and just let the water run out again.