Do Trust & Relax
Don't Fear Accidents
As a rule, it is enough to just clean the anus in the shower beforehand. Faeces are only found in the rectum before a bowel movement. If you don’t feel the need to go to the bathroom, then anal sex is hygienically safe. However, there’s always the possibility that an unpleasant smell or other surprises could arise. Don’t panic—just clean up and carry on (or switch to another practice).
[Caution: Intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections, so do not imitate the interplay between vaginal and anal penetration often shown in popular home porn.]
For an extra layer of cleanliness, consider using an anal shower to clean the intestines. This involves a thin plastic tube attached to a small pump ball.
- Fill the pump ball with body-temperature water and carefully insert the tip into the anus with lubricant.
- Press the pump ball, allowing the water to enter the rectum. Alternatively, a conventional showerhead pointed at the anus can introduce water inside.
- Hold the water for a moment, then sit on the toilet to let it drain.
- Depending on the water's colour, you'll know if additional rinses are needed. The clearer the water, the cleaner you are.
Don't Rush!
Contrary to what mainstream porn may depict, anal sex is typically not a spontaneous act. Ease and preparation are critical.
The anus consists of external and internal sphincter muscles that need to be relaxed and gently stretched before engaging in sex. This can be achieved through massaging, caressing, licking, or even gentle penetration with a finger or toy, with or without vibration.
[Caution: Use toys with wide bases designed for anal practices, such as anal plugs, to prevent them from disappearing into the intestine due to the sphincter’s suction effect.]
Use breathing techniques to relax. Stop as soon as something hurts. Listening to your feelings is the best approach for pain-free and injury-free anal sex.
Do: Use Lubricant
Do: Explore Different Positions
Various positions can enhance the pleasure of anal sex. Doggy style may be the most popular anal position, but there’s also the sphinx, wherein the receiving partner lies on their stomach with one leg slightly bent upwards, making the anus relaxed and easily accessible from behind.
However, things don’t always have to be a tergo; the equestrian position also works well for anal sex. It can be very enjoyable since the receiver has more control over the depth of penetration.
The spoon and missionary positions with bent legs are also highly suitable for anal sex. As always, additional clitoral stimulation can’t hurt, and the orgasms that will come from this will blow your mind!
For those trying anal sex for the first time, it might feel a bit unusual as you adapt to the new stimulation. However, you should never experience pain! Over time, it becomes easier to let go and focus on the sensation rather than the process. This can turn anal sex into a great and very intimate experience.
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