“Anal sex” is one of the most common search terms on porn sites. Why are we so fascinated by this sex practice? One the one hand, this is due to the taboo nature the butt has acquired because of it being associated with feces, submission and power.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that everyone is keen to have anal intercourse. Whether or not you enjoy anal sex is a matter of personal taste and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Some of you may have an unpleasant memory of your first butt time. Often, things don’t go quite as smoothly as one would like, especially if some important things are ignored. With the help of these do’s and don’ts, anal sex can become an exciting and pleasurable experience:
Do: Trust & Relax
Anal sex should never take place if it’s because of the partner’s forceful or pushy request. Relaxation is the be-all and end-all here: anyone who feels pressured will also be tense in the anal area. This makes it difficult to be penetrated and can lead to severe pain – no thank you! Talk openly about your wishes and your insecurities beforehand. That just makes the whole thing more relaxed. The more trust and closeness there is, the easier it will be for people to let go and turn off their head. It is particularly recommended to explore the anal region and anus in advance, and to find out and feel what feels good and what does not.
Don't: be afraid of accidents
As a rule, it is enough to just clean the anus in the shower before doing anal sex. Feces are only found in the rectum before stool. So, if you don’t feel the need to go to the bathroom, then anal sex is hygienically safe. However, there’s always the possibility that an unpleasant smell or other surprises could arise. Don’t panic – just clean up and carry on or switch to something else, to another practice. Warning: intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections. So, do not imitate the interplay between vaginal and anal penetration which it often shown in popular home porn.
If you want to be on the safe side, you can prep by cleaning the intestines with the help of an anal shower. It’s a thin plastic tube than is inserted into a small pump ball.
Don't: get too quickly straight to the pont
What is not shown in a lot of mainstream porn is that anal sex usually is not a spontaneous undertaking. The most important thing is to take your time and prepare yourself in advance. In our film Anal Practice, you can see a nice example of such a preparation.
The anus consists of the external and internal sphincter muscles which must be relaxed and carefully stretched before sex. This can be achieved by massaging, caressing and licking, or even gentle penetration with a finger or toy, with or without vibration. Caution: You should only use toys that are specially conceived for anal practices, such as anal plugs. The wide end prevents the toy from disappearing completely into the intestine due to the sphincter’s suction effect.
Also, use breathing techniques to relax and stop as soon as something hurts. Listening to your feelings is the best prerequisite for pain-free and injury-free anal sex.
Do: use lubricant
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not generate its own moisture, which is why lubricant gel is essential. Spit alone is not enough for anal sex and there is a risk of injury without lube. Water-based gels are best suited as they are particularly gentle on the skin and mucous membranes, and can be used with toys and latex condoms. You should use the lube generously, but keep in mind that a lot of lube is no substitute for careful stretching beforehand.
Do: not just form behind
There are different positions that make anal sex particularly pleasant. In addition to doggy style -one of the most popular anal positions-, is the sphinx: the passive partner lies on their stomach and slightly bends one leg upwards. The anus is so relaxed and easily accessible that the active partner can penetrate from behind.
But it doesn’t always have to be a tergo: the equestrian position also works for anal sex. It’s very pleasant as the receiver has more control over the depth of the penetration.
But it doesn’t always have to be a tergo: the equestrian position also works for anal sex. It’s very pleasant as the receiver has more control over the depth of the penetration. The spoon and missionary positions with bent legs are also highly suitable. As always, additional clitoral stimulation can’t hurt – and the orgasms that will come from this will blow your mind!
Having anal sex for the first time may feel weird as you have to get used to the new anal stimulation. But you should never feel pain! Over time, it becomes easier to let go and focus on the feeling rather than the process. This can make anal sex a great and very intimate experience.