Anal Sex: This is How it Works and, my-my, is it Fun!

Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable, but it does require some prepping and knowledge. Here are our do’s and don’t’s for some anal flights of fancy!


“Anal sex” is one of the most common search terms on porn sites. Why are we so fascinated by this sex act? On one hand, this fascination can be attributed to the taboo nature that the buttocks have acquired due to their association with faeces, submission and power.At the same time, in both men and women, the anal region is sensitive enough to lead to intense orgasms. This doesn’t mean that everyone is keen on having anal intercourse.Enjoying anal sex is a matter of personal taste and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Some may have an unpleasant memory of their first experience with anal play, since, all too often, things don’t go quite as smoothly as one would like. With the help of these do’s and don’ts, anal sex can become an exciting and pleasurable experience:

Do Trust & Relax

Anal sex should never take place at the forceful or pushy request of a partner. Relaxation is the be-all and end-all. Anyone feeling pressured will also be anally tense, which makes penetration difficult or painful—no thank you! Openly discuss your wishes and your insecurities beforehand to make the whole thing more relaxed. The more trust and closeness are cultivated, the easier it will be for everyone involved to let go. A quiet mind is particularly recommended during anal explorations.

Don't Fear Accidents

As a rule, it is enough to just clean the anus in the shower beforehand. Faeces are only found in the rectum before a bowel movement. If you don’t feel the need to go to the bathroom, then anal sex is hygienically safe. However, there’s always the possibility that an unpleasant smell or other surprises could arise. Don’t panic—just clean up and carry on (or switch to another practice).
[Caution: Intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections, so do not imitate the interplay between vaginal and anal penetration often shown in popular home porn.]

For an extra layer of cleanliness, consider using an anal shower to clean the intestines. This involves a thin plastic tube attached to a small pump ball.

Don't Rush!

Contrary to what mainstream porn may depict, anal sex is typically not a spontaneous act. Ease and preparation are critical.

The anus consists of external and internal sphincter muscles that need to be relaxed and gently stretched before engaging in sex. This can be achieved through massaging, caressing, licking, or even gentle penetration with a finger or toy, with or without vibration.

[Caution: Use toys with wide bases designed for anal practices, such as anal plugs, to prevent them from disappearing into the intestine due to the sphincter’s suction effect.]

Use breathing techniques to relax. Stop as soon as something hurts. Listening to your feelings is the best approach for pain-free and injury-free anal sex.

Do: Use Lubricant

Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce moisture, making lubricant gel essential. Spit alone is insufficient for anal sex, and using lube is crucial to avoid the risk of injury. Water-based gels are ideal, being gentle on the skin and mucous membranes, and compatible with toys and latex condoms. Apply the lube generously, but remember that ample lube is no substitute for careful stretching beforehand.

Do: Explore Different Positions

Various positions can enhance the pleasure of anal sex. Doggy style may be the most popular anal position, but there’s also the sphinx, wherein the receiving partner lies on their stomach with one leg slightly bent upwards, making the anus relaxed and easily accessible from behind.

However, things don’t always have to be a tergo; the equestrian position also works well for anal sex. It can be very enjoyable since the receiver has more control over the depth of penetration.

The spoon and missionary positions with bent legs are also highly suitable for anal sex. As always, additional clitoral stimulation can’t hurt, and the orgasms that will come from this will blow your mind!

For those trying anal sex for the first time, it might feel a bit unusual as you adapt to the new stimulation. However, you should never experience pain! Over time, it becomes easier to let go and focus on the sensation rather than the process. This can turn anal sex into a great and very intimate experience.

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