Experience Masturbation
Prioritize Your Pleasure
One of the most intriguing aspects of self-exploration through masturbation was gaining insight into my thoughts during those intimate moments. Sometimes I found myself thinking of a specific person, place or position. Sometimes I’d realize I wasn’t thinking at all. I managed to also get to a space of no thought at all: a quasi-meditative area which just ended with the best burst of pleasure.
This journey of self-discovery led me to a realization—I had been neglecting my pleasure in various instances, failing to authentically express my desires in the moment. There were times when I wasn’t even sure what I wanted, leaving it to my partner to figure out. But at the end of the day, despite the familiarity between partners and their intimate history, no one knows your desires, needs, and cravings better than you do. All it takes is a little practice, and you’ll be happy to practice masturbating in no time!
In the past, I tended to be more reserved, often prioritizing my partner’s pleasure. Although I still take pleasure in making my partner orgasm, I maintain a deep connection to my desires.
This of course doesn’t mean you must be selfish in bed. A greater connection to yourself allows a greater connection to your partner(s). They’ll notice it, both physically and emotionally. Although I don’t believe there necessarily needs to be a correlation between sex and emotions, masturbation can help make both aspects of sex better.
This process also deeply helped me get over some fears and body image issues. I used to feel uncomfortable in my body and not attractive enough. These doubts affected the way I had sex; I’d be thinking of how I could make these flaws less obvious to my partner. I wasted some magical and extremely pleasurable moments by thinking of these negative traits.
Now, I get it! Sex is only affected by these things if you let your fears take more space than they should. Once I decided to let it go, sex has been so much better and I feel so empowered!
How Masturbation Impacts Sex
Through masturbation, your confidence will grow, and, with it, your self-knowledge, too. It serves as a gateway to openly express your deepest desires and fantasies. So go ahead and give it a try! You’ll experience your sexual awakening on a deeper level!
Whether you’re living the single life or you’ve got someone special, don’t forget to make time to masturbate—feel all the feels you deserve!
So, my advice is to practice masturbation and get out of your comfort zone—especially if you aren’t too acquainted with it—and let it take you to places you didn’t know existed. Who knows what will come out of it? The possibilities are endless and deeply personal. My guess: you’ll find pleasure, open-mindedness, self-knowledge and an amazing pool of new and intense feelings!
