Trying different sex positions is fun and can be beneficial for your sex life. But most of them either look like a manual for advanced gymnastics, or reinforce stereotypes within its depiction. The artist Diana Bobb has created 16 artworks for CHEEX showing sex positions that can benefit us aside from gender identity, age, and bodily ability.
Sex with limited mobility can be difficult but also opens new possibilities to get creative! Since wheelchairs are common mobility aids, why not incorporate them into sexy play? As the person on top, you can use the foot and armrests to support your body weight when moving. Play with leverage and different angles. Even just sitting in your partner’s lap can be a sensual experience. Feel free to get as acrobatic with the chair as you want. We all crave physical contact, and this can look however it feels good for you.
This position can also be enjoyed with other kinds of chairs. For added support, you can use pillows, blankets, ropes or stools. What happens if you sit facing each other? Is it more difficult or easier?
Period sex is beneficial for cramps, while releasing hormones like endorphins and oxytocin positively influences our overall well-being. If you’re worried that your sheets look like a Jackson Pollock after period sex, put a towel or a dark shirt down. Your menstrual blood contains more nutrients than the blood in our veins, so don’t worry about it being unhealthy or dirty. Make sure you have sex in a way that feels good for your body and if you don’t feel like having sex at all, this is also completely normal.
Sex in the bathtub or shower can also be pleasurable and help with cramps and relaxation.
Blowjobs are not only about one person receiving pleasure. Talk about the different ways you like to give and receive head. Some people like their balls licked, deep throating, or even the gentle use of teeth. During the blowjob, you can include some anal play. Really treat your partner with this. Using a lot of lube, move your fingers in circles around the anus. Once your partner is ready and relaxed, insert your finger into the anus, going only as deep as it feels comfortable and you feel no resistance. As the person receiving, make sure you are vocal about what you want from your partner.
While the anus has two muscle rings, only the external one opens easily. But to stimulate the prostate, you don’t need to insert the whole finger – pressure on the perineum can also be effective. This is the ridged area between the scrotum and the anus.
Not all disabilities are visible. If you are having problems holding yourself up due to a lack of body strength or neurological issues after a virus infection – a tool like a doggy strap can really help you and your partner. Remember, it doesn’t have to be only fast, hard thrusting. The doggy strap can also be used to slowly guide penetration or sync any rhythmic, sensual thrusting movements.
Try using the strap to tie your partner(s) to the bedpost.
Have your partner kneel between your legs with a pillow under their knees. To adjust the angle, lift your leg(s) up and wrap them around your partner’s neck and shoulders. Then, use your hips to steer. You can easily bring in nipple and breast play or stroke your partner’s neck and hair. Or try some dirty talk to encourage your partner! Make sure that you communicate what feels good to you and guide them to your sweetest spots.
Great for outdoor activities because you can stay dressed if you’re wearing easy access clothing like a skirt or loose pants.
The butt massage is one of the most underrated sexual practices. Since the anus is full of nerve endings – touching, spanking, stroking and caressing the butt can even feel orgasmic. Start by massaging and stroking the butt cheeks, maybe some light spanking, then work your way towards the anus. Using a lot of lube or massage oil, gently move in circles. Don’t be shy to switch up pressure and patterns! Constantly check-in with your partner’s preferences. We deeply encourage you to explore non-penetrative anal play because it’s incredible!
You can also explore between your partner’s thighs or try flicking your finger from the perineum (ridged area above the anus) back to the anus.
In this position, both partners face each other while one sits on top. The top partner then crosses their legs behind their partner. While an amazing position for anal penetration and hitting those hot spots, it’s also incredible for intimacy and igniting passion. Anal play is often stigmatized for heterosexual cismen or vulva owners due to penetration and porn trends. But anal orgasms can be extremely pleasurable! For vulva owners, the clitoral legs extend to the anus. For penis owners, anal stimulation triggers the prostate area. Get ready for a completely different kind of orgasm.
The person on the bottom can kneel while rocking the person on top back and forth. Add in sensations by gripping your partner’s butt cheeks.
Sexuality is a basic human right! Sex assistants help guarantee this for their clients. People with disabilities can make use of this service to gain sexual self-determination. Sexual assistance can be given in a lying position, or people can utilize aids like wheelchairs. Like any other service, expectations and desires are discussed beforehand. However, it is often still shamed and not covered by insurance, as society struggles to acknowledge that everyone deserves pleasure.
Ranging from sensual massages to kissing, naked cuddling to penetrative sex – there are many ways to be intimate and get our needs met.
Exploring your kinks means trying out different sensations and roles. Do you enjoy being dominant or submissive? What are the fantasies you would like to play out in a safe space with your partner? Are there sexual practices you are curious about exploring to see if they fit? Like soft strokes with feathers, a dripping candle, spanking, ropes, teasing or being teased? Exploring your kinky side means knowing your boundaries and desires and communicating to your partner. Make sure you feel safe with your play partner and know that you can change your mind at any moment.
Create a traffic light list for your kinky exploration. In the green column, list your favorites. In orange, list your curiosities. In red, write your no-go’s. Use the colors during play – green means yes, orange means slow down or pause, and red means stop.
Mainstream porn often promotes penetration as the only form of sex. But experiencing pleasure can take many different forms. Penises don’t need to be hard and pussies don’t need to be wet to enjoy intimate, sensual and sexy time together. Make time with your partner to simply enjoy each other’s bodies. How do you want to be touched? What are your partner’s erogenous zones? What is your favorite way to have non- penetrative sex? Find at least 3 different ways to make your partner orgasm. As always, ask for consent.
Try only touching and licking secondary erogenous zones, like the nipples, ears, thighs, nape of the neck, etc. Or try masturbating in front of each other – it’s super hot!
Feeling physical support can elevate sex by adding in a sense of safety. Have fun experimenting with multiple variations, it can unleash new pleasure potential for incredible intimacy. For example, if you’re pregnant – try sitting back at an angle, supporting your weight with your arms while putting your legs up on a chair behind your partner. Also, the person standing can move their partner’s body easier with the help of a table or a kitchen counter.
As the person lying on the table, try lifting or tilting your pelvis a little to change the pressure levels. If sitting at an angle is too much, try lying down and let the person standing do the rest.
Next time you dream about a threesome, fantasize about a foursome! Why? With three people, we can worry about everyone having fun, rush through the experience and get distracted from our pleasure. Even numbers of partners can be helpful for concentrating on one person at a time. And remember to take it slow. Focus on giving and receiving pleasure, listening with our ears and bodies and communicating our desires. This is not a sprint, but a marathon.
Set a timer. Take turns explaining what you want the others to do and then switch. You might also want to try edging with one person, then switch to another and start again.
Riding is fun, no matter the gender, and movement and play can be more important than penetration. Try outercourse, like dry humping with clothes on. This can be helpful if one partner is navigating gender dysphoria or their new body after gender-affirming surgery. Use your fingers to brush the nipples, gently put them into your partner’s mouth or stroke other sensual areas. You can ride up and down as well as back and forth. If the penis owner is on the bottom, make sure you move in a way that doesn’t hurt.
The partner on top can squat or bend one leg to experiment with angles and leverage – unlock new levels of pleasure!
Using sex toys like a double dildo together with your partner can feel great, no matter if inserted into the anus or vagina. Using the right size can help create some suction, while your partner can help with thrusting. Communicating your needs and what feels good is key, because what might feel good for you doesn’t necessarily feel good for the other person. Don’t forget to lube up and always clean your toys thoroughly.
You can simultaneously masturbate for that extra thrill or try facing each other instead.
Also called face sitting, this position is pure pleasure for people with vulvas to enjoy while sitting on top! Imagine having total control while guiding pressure and movement. A reminder – scents and fluids are sexy and perfectly normal. For vulva owners, make sure you are receiving pleasure exactly the way you like it. Be vocal about how you want your pussy to be licked, sucked and nibbled. Check-in with each other and make sure everyone is comfortable.
Depending on comfort and strength, play with fully sitting down or squatting over their face. Or switch it up to tease and tantalize your partner.
Some of us treat masturbation as the quick and dirty version of real sex. But trying new things makes any relationship better – even the one with yourself. How would you make love to yourself like a lover? Explore seducing yourself! What songs put you in the mood? Are you curious about toys? Try using a vibrator from behind while you stimulate your vulva, perineum and anus at the same time. Always make sure to use a lot of oil or lubricant. Watching yourself in a mirror getting turned on and even coming is intimate, intense and fully recommended!
Start with experiencing your body by finding all the things you love about it. It can be as small as “I love my eyelashes”. Think about how your body gives you pleasure, how it brings you from a to b or how wonderfully unique your vulva or penis looks.
Diana Bobb is a Vienna- based multidisciplinary designer and illustrator. She studied communication design in Graz and Salzburg, as well as fine arts in Valencia. Her background lends itself to a broad skill set including illustration, design, storytelling and branding. Bold colors and inviting shapes summon the viewer into Bobb’s character-driven, vibrant world that’s both courageous and convincing. Past projects include a children’s book about racism and prejudice, #powerfulwomenweek and a spotlight in Missy Magazine about adverse conditions for bicycle couriers and their ensuing solidarity. Bobb is simultaneously fearless and compassionate – certainly one to watch for what comes next on her artistic journey.