Even if Cake and Cunnilingus Day cannot be taken seriously, I propose to actively make this day all about pleasure, about whole-body orgasms, about celebrating sexuality. This is for all women, no matter what relationship status, sexual orientation or identification, whether you were born this way or not. Let’s make this about our needs and desires.
How do you ask for what you desire and deserve?
Let’s say you like the idea of getting cake (or simply anything delicious to eat) from you lover and you want to get pleasured orally whilst eating your cake. Or you would like to sit in the cake while your lover eats your pussy.
How is your lover going to know about your desires, if you don’t voice them?
We all fear rejection, we fear that other people might think we are obscene, that they see who we really are and then… they might not want us anymore. We have learnt how to please and to accommodate, but we haven’t learned how to ask for what we want.
If a person rejects you because of your desires, it is probably not the person for you. Eventually, this someone won’t be able to satisfy you.
We all appreciate people, who are certain about who they are and what they want and it’s sexy to have the courage to ask for that. Confidence is sexy and in case you and your lover don’t want the same thing, you can figure out how to meet in the middle or talk about other naughty desires you both might agree on. And in the worst case, you get to laugh about it.
Here’s just one idea of what to say to your lover to start off your personal pleasure day:
And if you’re currently out of lovers, get some delicious treats and pleasure yourself, however you like it. Happy Cake and Cunnilingus Day!
