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Pussy Pleasure

How to lick it right. Whilst blow jobs often seem to be expected, eating pussy still isn’t. For a lot of women having someone worship their vulva feels absurd.

And I am using the word worship for a reason. So much shame exists around the look, the smell and taste of the pussy. Especially as the vulva is carried unseen on the body. Men wear their genitalia on the outside, where everyone can see them, evoking different kinds of insecurities, but the vulva as the hidden sexual organ has a different kind of forbiddance to it, a different kind of access and vulnerability. A lot of women are insecure about their pussies, yet all are beautiful and worth being worshipped and loved.

Oral

Before we dive deeper: Whether you are identifying as a man, a woman, any other or no gender, make sure you want to approach your (sexual) partner and her pussy with love and respect. Make sure you want to worship her and devour her at the same time.

My Neck, My Back

And please speak to your partner about her (and your) preferences, likes and dislikes, and if she doesn’t know yet, explore it together. We seem to have forgotten about the power and the magic of the vulva

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We might have seen “perfect” tight pussies in mainstream porn, we might have witnessed some techniques, but we don’t speak about our actual likes and dislikes, we don’t feel encouraged to explore through self-touch, what truly gives us pleasure. Naturally, during (hetero-)sexual intercourse the vagina is the one being penetrated and the penis is the one penetrating. And although that precisely can feel amazing for both sides, and although the person owning a vagina can be the dominating one during sex:

The sheer fact that male and female body parts are made this way, can translate to a power imbalance, which makes it even more necessary to worship the pussies of this world.

How To

Let’s say you and your (sexual) partner are in bed, caressing each other, kissing each other and you would love to pleasure your woman orally. First, make her feel comfortable, make sure she can relax into the experience and open herself up to you.

taken from the movie “Hotel Love” by 1twothreecum. Watch here

This can mean as much as being fully present, with her and for her. It can mean asking her what she needs from you right now and/or what she wants. She might have very specific instructions for you, and if not, you will find out together. As everybody and every body is different, the one recipe to pleasure simply doesn’t exist

Yet there are guidelines and ideas to support you.

A few suggestions

You can start by touching and kissing her whole body, her neck, her boobs (I am talking about the whole boob, not just the nipples), her hands, her inner thighs…

You can also start by giving her a full-body massage with some (coconut-)oil, that can be used as lubricant too. Most importantly, stay present and enjoy yourself. If you are not enjoying what you are doing, she won’t either. You can tell her how good she smells, tastes, what you love about her body or what turns you on.

I know it is not easy to talk about sex or desires, especially whilst you are doing it, but try to communicate with your partner, you’ll find your way, and it can make things a lot hotter.

The Magic Key

Once you have made your way to her beautiful pussy, you can lick or kiss the outer labia, the inner labia, the clitoris, all parts of the vagina. And make sure you do. Make sure you don’t solely focus on the clitoris, although it certainly feels amazing, you want to work your way up to it. You can use your thumbs to massage the inside of her thighs or the outer labia even, whilst your tongue explores her pussy.

If at some point you feel like inserting a finger or a toy or a pleasure wand or other fun tools, check in with your partner first

There are thousands of small nerve endings on the outside of the vagina, the outer labia for example, so there is no need to rush. If you only stimulate the most sensitive part of the pussy, the clitoris, it can turn numb. The same would happen to the penis, if you would solely focus on rubbing the tip

For the perfect

Stay present with her, breathe and make sound, communicate with each other, take it slow, and ravish your woman (with consent).

I would also recommend the pussy owners to explore what gives you pleasure through self-touch, with or without your partner. And lastly, as always, if you don’t want to orally pleasure your partner, don’t do it. There is no obligation on either end. Enjoy.

Some Inspiration?

If you want to watch others self-touching and pleasing themselves, head over to our category solo.

In the mood for some oral sex? Find some stimulating movies in our oral section.

 

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